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“People are so afraid of pain. Terrified of falling or failing. Terrified of the break. Terrified of picking up the pieces. That is why we don’t try. That is why we don’t put ourselves out there or really live. But we only fear pain, and breaks and wounds, because we rely on ourselves to heal them. If we truly believed that no matter how broken, how much pain, or how deep the wound, we could run to the Healer, we would no longer be so afraid to try, to risk, to feel. To live. And that would look like courage”
— Yasmin Mogahed
 
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“What comes to a person in his or her life, however difficult it may be, perhaps will help a person move closer to God. The response to tribulation is Sabr, which is patience, perseverance, steadfastness, and resolve. Allah loves the patient; part of the reason the tribulation comes is to draw the quality of patience out of them- He loves this quality.”
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Keeping a friendly distance:


Many students ask me how to deal with family members who are bad company. Cutting of ties with them is not permissible, yet allowing them to influence us is also dangerous. To deal with this, I use the friendly distance method.
A friendly distance means that you are friendly to the individual, and maintain a limited friendship like meeting up for short amounts of time in a good environment, but at the same time you maintain a distance by not letting that person take up too much of your time and influence you negatively.
For example, if you have an aunt who always criticizes you and makes you feel bad whenever you meet her, you cannot cut ties with her and you have been unable to influence her, so what do you do? You continue to treat her well while maintaining a distance, meeting her only when necessary and only interact as much as needed, not giving her any opportunity to lash out at you with her tongue. In this way, you fulfill the obligation of family ties without allowing her to influence you negatively.
 
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